Prayer of the National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved

Dear God,
Thank you for listening to me —
the sorrows that bind my heart
the fears that circle endlessly in my mind
the memories that make me yearn
for yesterdays long gone.
Thank you for listening to me —
my constant pleas for relief
my quest to understand
my insecurities and self-doubt
about unknown tomorrows.
Thank you for listening to me —
as I struggle to regain life’s balance
as I cautiously take each step
as I seek to create a sense of now.
I only ask that you grace me with the patience —
to be still and hear your voice
to trust the fleeting beacons of hope
to know with a deep knowledge
that all will be well again.
Thank you for listening to me.

Help me to listen to You.

Amen.
Welcome to the official web site of the National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved. We hope you will find resources here for all of your bereavement needs.

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Our Mission

Called by the healing ministry of Jesus, the National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved is committed to serve all people who have experienced the death of a loved one. Our holistic care is dedicated to the spiritual support of individuals, parishes, and communities.

Our Goals

  • To offer spiritual support and the healing comfort of God to all who mourn a loss through death
  • To develop and provide the resources and training programs to support ministries of consolation
  • To increase networking, collaboration, and partnering with ministers of consolation, parishes, dioceses, and national organizations

Our Vision

We envision a compassionate Catholic ministry which will lead to the transformation of the bereavement ministry. We will ensure services and education which will respond to the needs of people throughout the grief process. We look to expand the role of the laity in leadership to ensure this Catholic ministry into the future.

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History of the NCMB

In 1988, Gerard S. Garey, President of the Raskob Foundation for Catholic Activities, initiated a survey to the Bishops throughout the United States, asking for information pertaining to the active bereavement ministry in their dioceses. A think tak of Catholic bereavement ministers from throughout the United States was called together by the Raskob Foundation to begin the search for ways to help those who grieve.

At the same time the National Conference of Catholic Bishops was writing the Order of Christian Funerals. The Spirit gathered people together to bring comfort and meaning into the lives of those suffereing the loss of a loved one. As a result of this survey, the National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved (NCMB) was established in 1990 to service the grief support needs identified by the bishops.

The Order of Christian Funerals expresses it well: "When a member of Christ's Body dies, the faithful are called to a ministry of consolation to those who have suffered the loss of one whom they love. Christian consolation is rooted in that hope that comes from faith in the saving death and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ. Christian hope faces the reality of death and the anguish of grief but trusts confidently that the power of sin and death have been vanquished by the risen Lord. The Church calls each member of Christ's Body -- priest, deacon, layperson -- to participate in the ministry of consolation: to care for the dying, to pray for the dead, to comfort those who mourn."

In the Scriptures Jesus comforts those who mourn, as in Matthew 11:28-29: "Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, I will give you rest ... and you will find rest." In the same Gospel, Jesus reassures us of God's solace: "Happy are those who mourn; God will comfort them!" (5:4) We as Christians follow this example.

The National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved, Inc., listed in The Official Catholic Directory published by P.J. Kennedy & Sons, is non-profit and has 501c(3) status. The organization's Board of Trustees guides the development and overall operation of the organization as it strives to implement its mission.

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Contact the NCMB

National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved (NCMB)
PO Box 16353
St. Louis, MO 63125-0353
314-638-2638
FAX 314-638-2639
NCMB@GriefWork.org

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Executive Committee

Member

Office/Board/Term

John Cherek
White Bear Lake, MN
jmcherek@catholic-cemeteries.org

President
Term: 2001-2008

Rev. Mr. Ray Deabel
Chicago Heights, IL
raydeabel@sbcglobal.net

Past President
Term: 1999-2006

Ingrid Seunarine
Brooklyn, NY
ISBereaved@yahoo.com

President-Elect
Term: 2001-2011

Rev. Brian K. Shaffer
Columbus, OH
BrBrendan@Earthlink.net

Secretary
Term: 2000-2007

Marilyn B. Hess
Indianapolis, IN
Mhess@archindy.org

Treasurer
Term: 2000-2007

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Members of the Board

Member

Office/Board/Term

Sue Bohlman
Chicago, IL
suebohlman@hotmail.com

Term: 2006-2007

Linda Cherek
White Bear Lake, MN
LCHEREK@msn.com

Term: 2001-2007

Betty Anne Darch, SFCC
Evansville, IN
badarch@stmarys.org

Term: 2004-2007

Donna MacLeod
Ormond Beach, FL
donmacna@cfl.rr.com

Term: 2007-2010

Deacon Ray Ortega
Miami, FL
conamor0@hotmail.com

Term: 2007-2010

Rosmery Ortega
Miami, FL
abucotica@hotmail.com

Term: 2007-2010

Martha Tressler
Alsip, IL
mtressler@cathcemchgo.org

Term: 2007-2010

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Ex-Officio Members of the Board

Member

Office/Board/Term

Most Reverend Joseph N. Perry
Auxiliary Bishop of Chicago
South Holland, IL

Episcopal Moderator

Gerard S. Garey, President
Patricia M. Garey, Vice President
Wilmington, DE

Permanent Advisor

Veronica A. Hudak-Moe
Haymarket, VA
webmaster@GriefWork.org

Web Developer

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Committee Members

Member

Committee

Rev. Terence P. Curley
Nahant, MA
T-Curley@comcast.net

Prayer

Suzanne B. Delaney
Chesterfield, MO
SBdelaney1@aol.com

Development

Barbara A. Elordi
San Francisco, CA
BElordi@aol.com

Education

Rev. Richard Gilbert, BCC, Ph.D
Elgin, IL
Dick.Gilbert@ShermanHospital.org

Education

Doris B. Hudak
Red Bank, NJ
TJH-DBH@worldnet.att.net

Special Events

Pat Burns Kish
Munster, IN
patak@surfnetinc.com

Special Events

Marlene Luffy, CDP
Pittsburgh, PA
Mluffy@ccpgh.org

Special Events

Rita Montgomery-Hollie
St. Louis, MO
ritam@mongtomeryhollie.com

Journey

Sr. Mauryeen O'Brien, OP
Hamden, CT
mauryeenflo@hartfordflo.com

Special Events

Joan A. Ross
House Springs, MO
JoanARoss@aol.com

Special Events
Journey

Mary Shriver
Harrisburg, PA
mshriver@hbgdiocese.org

Education

Elaine E. Stillwell
Rockville Centre, NY
elainestillwell@worldnet.att.net

Special Events

Katharine M. Teipen
Cincinnati, OH
TeipenKM@aol.com

Special Events

Steven P. Tibbetts
Minneapolis, MN
TibbHearts@aol.com

Education

Sr. Mary Ann Wachtel, Ph.D, SFCC
St. Louis, MO
companions@earthlink.net

Journey

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Editorial Board

Rev. Dick Gilbert, BCC

Sr. Mauryeen O’Brien, OP

Katharine Teipen

Marlene Luffy, CDP

Mary Shriver

Sr. Mary Ann Wachtel, SFCC

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Administration

Member

Office

Georgia Zarbo
NCMB
PO Box 16353
St. Louis, MO 63125-0353
314-638-2638
FAX 314-638-2639
NCMBereave@aol.com

Office Manager

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